On December 21st some of us will discuss Dr. Charlotte Hawkins Brown’s advice, published in 1940, in The Correct Thing To Do, To Say, To Wear. In March of this year, when I proposed this conversation and collaborative writing, several ideas seemed relevant; some have been shared in previous blog essays.
Today I am inclined to focus less on etiquette (in a traditional sense) and more on respectful solidarity. This means to me that we find ways to appreciate our differences and work together in pursuit of our shared values. Some of us may commit time to becoming better acquainted in ways that shed light on our experiences and observations. As we consider cultural norms, and standards of decorum (especially in public places and events), as well as our ideals and aspirations, we may agree or disagree on the steps required to move collectively toward solidarity. Our conversation Saturday will be but one step forward—neither the first or nor last step. Will you join me?
As our focus remains on African Americans, we will pay attention to cultural diversity within Black communities. Our discussion will consider the following aspects of Dr. Charlotte Hawkins Brown’s advice:
- Are roles of “ladies” and “gentlemen” meaningful in 2024?
- What matters in culturally diverse settings, with respect to functionally relevant behaviors?
- Which of our behaviors and choices are symbolically meaningful, signaling our perceived status or aspects of our identity?
- How do we communicate and learn cultural standards and values?
- What are the consequences of standards and practices that define our ways of being and doing?
- How does economic diversity affect our attitudes about rules governing what we do, say and wear?
We differ with respect to our ability to conform to standards of etiquette. We also differ with respect to the relative priority of this topic in the total mix of concerns and challenges in our lives. In the coming year some of us may develop a contemporary analysis of ideas that were presented in The Correct Thing to Do, To Say, To Wear in 1940. Will you join the conversation?